Forgiving an abuser does not excuse the abuse.No one has the right to hurt other people. Forgiving an abuser does not excuse the abuse. Every perpetrator should receive justice from the civil law, take steps to ensure they never victimize again, and seek to make amends in an appropriate manner. It is NEVER ok to abuse someone.
Each person is created in the sacred image of God and deserves to be respected and protected.

Maria Goretti Network prays for perpetrators to turn themselves in, to civil authorities, to seek competent professional help and to accept responsibility for their actions. MGN also encourages society at large to help civil authorities bring perpetrators to justice and to support victims in the very difficult path to healing in their life.

Here Are Some Ways You Can Forgive Others:
 
Admit and confront the pain you incur when others wound you.
 
Rely on God’s power to forgive.  Know that God will enable you to forgive anyone who has inflicted any type of wound on you, and have confidence in God’s power to heal you.  Realize that forgiveness will likely take time, but that it is always possible.  Trust God, and expect Him to act.
 
Remember how God has forgiven you.  Think about what Christ did for you on the cross, and recall the times God has answered your prayers.  Thank God for His great love for you, and ask Him to help you forgive through the power of His love.
 
Pray about a particular hurtful incident soon after it occurs, seeking to forgive.  Remember that God has warned that your own prayers will be blocked if you don’t forgive others, and that evil will gain access to your life.  Don’t wait until you feel like forgiving; that may never happen.  Instead, act out of obedience, and God will gradually send you peace.
 
Surrender any plans to take revenge.  Be willing to pay the cost of forgiveness to receive its priceless benefits.
 
Understand that forgiving an offender doesn’t mean that doesn’t mean that you endorse the offense.  What happened was wrong, and your forgiveness won’t change that.  But it will enable you to break free of your pain and heal, and it will release the offender from any obligation incurred due to the offense.
 
Strive to channel your energy when thinking of an offense in positive-rather than negative-ways.  Instead of using energy to nurse resentment, use it to think of creative solutions to the problem and ways to improve your relationship with the person who hurt you.
 
Don’t make your forgiveness contingent on whether the offender responds positively to your efforts.  He or she may even be hostile, but God still wants you to forgive, and you can still benefit greatly from doing so.
 
Release your pain to God in prayer, and let go of any records of the offense so you won’t use them to dwell on it.
 
If the person you need to forgive is yourself, ask God to give you a vision of how He sees you, and embrace His love.  Confess any sins you haven’t yet confessed to God, repent of them, and accept His forgiveness, knowing that once you do you are truly forgiven and don’t need to fear that those sins will stand between you and God.
 
After you forgive someone, guard your heart, since it may take a while before you’re able to find emotional peace.  Take a bit of time to isolate yourself from the person and the situation that caused the offense, but make sure that’s only a temporary way to find emotional peace, not a habit to disguise festering resentment.  Realize that you don’t have to resume your former relationship with the person as if nothing ever happened; and in fact, sometimes reconciliation doesn’t work.  But recognize that peace is always possible, and that reconciliation may work if the person is willing to pursue it.
 
 
Adapted from Forgive and Love Again:  Healing Wounded Relationships copyright 1991 by John Nieder and Thomas M. Thompson.  Published by Harvest House Publishers.